The Pressure to Finding “The One” in College

Society has created the idea that people must find “the one” in college. While some people have luck in finding their significant other for life in college, others are stuck waiting patiently for their prince charming to arrive.

While the idea of getting married is an exciting one, the pressure to find that perfect someone can put an astounding amount of stress on one’s self, including my own.

“The average age of marriage is sneaking up close to 30, so the norms of society are shifting away from young people marrying in their early 20s,” said Brian Ogolsky, professor in Human Development and Family Studies.

While statistics show that people are getting married much later in life, the media has pushed young adults by giving them misleading clues as to where they might find the perfect one. Whether it be through a dating app or a college party, the stories that have been told by a small percent of the population that have found their life-long partner in college has been blown out of proportions.

I have also witnessed many parents add to their child’s stress as they encourage them to keep a lookout on a future solemate. This mission has put a toll on my friends, and I, in efforts to finding “the one” in four years, which is not as easy as it sounds, and in most cases, won’t happen either.

Social media, in my opinion, has created this pressure and because of its impact on society it have made individuals increasingly worried to live up to the expectations set out by either friends, influencers, and/or celebrities. I have seen students plan their weddings from creating a Pinterest board with everything from the flower displays at the reception, to the ring they hope their future partner will give them. Marriage has become this underlying pressure that lies behind the back of our heads whether or not one is in a relationship.

In many cases, people will question their own relationships and even end one early if they can’t see their life with them forever. Yet, how can one predict the future? Why is society creating deadlines for us? Instead, the person should have control over one’s own life and not have to conform to what the rest of society is doing. Conforming is ultimately surrendering your freedom to a group of individuals that does not understand you and the relationship you are in. Only you can determine what is best for the relationship.  

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Marriage is not a joke, therefore, I feel this pressure is creating individuals to rush the relationship process making it inauthentic and forced. Love should not be pushed, but rather a feeling that comes naturally and in some cases spontaneously. If you have already planned on getting married in the future, you are unconsciously creating expectations and characteristics your partner should have.

Society has also put stress on the length in which you chose to stay dating, before possibly tying the knot. If you are contemplating on whether or not to get married with a partner you have or a partner you wish to have in the future, you have already paved a way for the pressure of society to inflict in your life.

“I think the pressure to be in a relationship stems from social media. There are Instagram pages dedicated to being in a relationship and I yearn the same image they portray in their photos. Everyone seems so in love and I feel there is a push to find that perfect person. Many people say they meet their partner for life in college, and because I have not found ‘the one’ it makes me worried even though I know I have a lifetime to meet that someone,” said Jordyn Rifkin.

Personally, I try and live my life day by day, not thinking about the future but rather living in the moment. While marriage is an exciting time, college may not be the place to find “the one,” and that is completely okay. Creating unrealistic expectations will make it hard to find your sole mate in the end and cause more work on your part than it should be.

While marriage may look perfect on the outside, it is important to note the responsibilities that come with being an adult. “It takes two to tango. While a relationship has its perks, no relationship is perfect. I think couples sometimes put up a front to make them feel like their relationship has no flaws, but it is actually impossible. You are putting together two individuals with different ways of living and making it into one. While there are perks, there are inevitable downfalls that people sometimes forget to talk about,” said Amanda Lauro.

If you want to get married or not, it is important to keep an open mind about relationships and that everyone moves at their own pace. I have felt the pressure and I am sure you have too. Embracing the unknown and focusing on oneself will ensure that the marriage trap does not make you its next victim.

 

SNR Showcases Senior Fashion Students one Catwalk at a Time  

Marist Fashion students are buckling down in preparation for the 33rd Annual Silver Needle Runway Show (SNR) on May 10th, 2019. Students create what is once an empty space into an environment that feels like a show right out of New York Fashion Week.

“I’ve heard the show is going to be huge and really outdo itself from previous years. I absolutely love the Fashion Program here, it’s one of the top in the country. Although I’m not a Fashion Design Major, it is incredible to see the talent that is behind each sewing machine and how each student really creates walking forms of art,” said sophomore Jenna Rinaldi.

The SNR show originated in 1984 and since then has increased their professionalism and talent to new heights. Each show holds over 1,000 guests, including professionals in the field to critique seniors on their work. The event showcases the work done by senior design students during their semester long Senior Thesis Project.

While many show-goers are in awe of the numerous pieces students have designed, many forget about the individuals behind the scenes that enable the show to take place. Those in the Fashion Show Production Class showcase their artistry and display their ability to host such a major event to over thousands of individuals each year.

“This is my second year as a member of the Creative Team for the Production Class. The class is an extremely fulfilling experience but that definitely comes with hard work,” said sophomore Amanda Lauro. “It can sometimes feel more like an internship, making it great for a resume builder and talking point in interviews. You truly get as much out of the class as you put in and are given as much responsibility as you prove yourself capable of.”

While the work of design students is showcased through the fashion show, the class controlling all aspects of the show is the Fashion Show Production Class. In order to be apart of the class, students are required to go through a rigorous interview process as well as sharing a portfolio of their work. While being in the class sounds like a lot of work, many students express that the experience truly prepares them for the real world.  

“While there are so many fun and exciting times throughout the process of planning the show, if someone were to ask me if they should apply to the class I would first and foremost stress the time component,” said junior Dylan Skinner.

Besides finding a place to host the show and dealing with ticket orders, the Fashion Show Production Class advertises the show by creating promotional videos and showcasing photos to draw students in to attending this highly anticipated event for the fashion community at Marist. From simple coffee sleeves Starbucks has been giving out, to Instagram stories SNR volunteers have been posting, all the little details add up to what students hope to be a packed audience on May 10th.

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The class also holds a number of fundraisers to decrease the cost of the show, as this year they have gone over budget. “The biggest challenge of the class is working within a tight budget, we want to make the show as amazing as possible while also keeping finances in mind. But, with this you have to become an expert problem solver and use your creativity wherever you possibly can.” said Lauro. Some fundraisers they have done include a Candy Bar and pairing with local frozen yogurt store, Sweet Frog, to raise some extra cash on the side.  

Overall, fashion students and those in the production class are looking forward to this event that truly showcases the talent and hard work the Fashion Department puts into the program each year.

“When coming to the Silver Needle Runway Show, expect a high-production event that first and foremost works towards giving the amazing senior designer garments a great way to showcase their hard work. And with each tiny detail you notice at the venue, there was a Fashion Show Production team member slaving away, pulling all-nighters, and doing whatever they needed to do to make this night perfect,” said Skinner.

The event will take place on May 10th, 2019 in the Mid-Hudson Civic Center at 4:00 pm and 7:00 pm and tickets are available on ticketmaster.com.  

“If you want to experience what it’s like to watch a fashion show as professional as one you may see on the New York Fashion Week, this show is a must see,” said sophomore Skyler Caruso.

 

A Rebranded Career Services

Are you stressed trying to find an internship or a full time job? College presents itself with numerous obstacles, however, Marist Career Services has lent out a helping hand for students in the process of finding an internship or one’s dream job.

The Center for Career Services offers a large variety of services and opportunities and are constantly finding new ways for students to meet with companies and make valuable connections. Whether it be through interview preparation, alumni connections, internship opportunities, cover letter and resume help, or the job searching process, Career Services allows students to feel confident and well prepared for any opportunity that may come their way.

“When I first came to Marist we had a very small staff. Just really two and a half professional staff. President Yellen decided to invest in our office and gave us all these new positions to make us up to par with other schools so we can really make it a world class careers center,” said Executive Director, Mary Jones.

“We have so many new events for the students now that we never had before. It is so wonderful,” said Career Services Assistant, Patricia Corbett. “I feel in the past the Career Fair was very stagnant. It was not open to as many majors, but now, we have addressed this issue and have broadened it tremendously. We expect to see a large turnout this year.”

Although many individuals find Career Services to be helpful, others find the services to be useless. “I have been to Career Services twice or so, however, I never found it helpful. I felt that a lot of them didn’t really understand what I was going through as many of them went through this process a long time ago. I feel the office needs new, fresh out of college employees to make it easier to communicate,” said sophomore, Amanda Lauro.

A new program that has been introduced to students is the Road to the Workplace. Road to the Workplace allows students the opportunity to network and meet companies. Through this program students have been able to meet employees from Deutsche Band, Goldman Sachs, CNN, UBS, Devries, Madison Square Garden, Penguin Random House, and more.

“Now that the buzz is out I feel that Road to the Workplace is one of the most notable initiatives that Career Services has ever done. It has been every Friday except the holidays throughout the year. From all of these trips we are hearing that students are actually getting jobs from the connections they are making. I bring the contacts I make to Desmond Murray, Associate Director for the Employer Experience, and he makes it happen,” said Jones.

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Meet the Companies – March 7th, 2019

According to Career Services 2018 statistics, 83% of students participated in an internship, 598 students attended employer information sessions, and 2,058 students participated in one-on-one career advising meetings with first-years, sophomores, juniors, seniors, graduate students, and alumni. Although some may think Career Services is not helpful, statistics prove otherwise. Approximately 110 companies have visited campus and 1,224 students/alumni have attended the Career Fairs.

The Career Fair, which took place March 7th, 2019, has been rebranded to be called “Meet the Companies.” “We found that students were getting intimidated with the phrase ‘Career Fair,’ therefore, we tried to make it feel more inclusive,” said Jones. “We also have a VIP Networking Event that is going on simultaneously which we hope students will find helpful as well.”

Some companies that attended the VIP Networking Event included, CNN, ESPN, JP Morgan, Verizon, New York State Senate Office, and more. The networking event allowed students to talk to Marist alumni and hear more about their companies and advise on how to stand out from the rest. 

“Not all the companies that were supposed to come were there, but the companies that were there gave a significant amount of insight. I think Career Services does a great job putting it together and also reaching out to all the students via email to encourage them about the opportunities that Marist has to offer,” said sophomore, Christina Baviello.

A once basic office has now transformed within the year to “an office attracting companies that go to ivy leagues such as Harvard or Yale,” said Jones.

Marist is rebranding their Career Services to ensure students are provided with the latest connections and opportunities they could not find anywhere else.

Abroad Students: Welcome Back to Housing Bummer

Students are slamming their doors at Marist Housing after many juniors and seniors are left with underclassmen housing and separation from friends.

“Before I went abroad I had requested to be placed back on campus. Marist did not inform me where my housing placement was until two days before I was planning on moving in,” said junior Maya James. “I was placed in sophomore housing as a junior. I ended up finding an off-campus house last minute and moved there for this semester.”

After studying abroad for a semester, Marist students have been left at the bottom of the list when coming back to Marist this spring semester. Not only were abroad students left with poor housing, but the situation has further resulted in perspective abroad students fearing this problem may happen to them as well.

“It was really frustrating to return from abroad to find out that Marist couldn’t put me with any of my friends and in sophomore housing. Marist encourages studying abroad so much and it felt like they were punishing me for going,” said junior Morgan Colwell. “As a junior I would’ve liked to live with at least one of my friends and not have a roommate. They were very disorganized and the problem could have easily been avoided.”

Not only is Marist not confronting the issue, they are leaving students to move off campus unless they want to settle for underclassmen housing. James now lives with graduate students and is considerably far from her friends that live on campus, while Colwell settles for sophomore housing.

According to Marist Housing, about 300 students went abroad in the fall, while only 100 went in the spring resulting in numerous individuals not having spots in upperclassman housing. Although some feel that being placed in an underclassman house is worse than no housing at all, another argument that is being made is “Do we really have bad housing at Marist?,” said sophomore and tour guide Skyler Caruso.

Marist does not guarantee housing after freshman and sophomore year, but they have been able to accommodate anyone who sought housing 100% over the past few years. Yet, based on the numerous abroad students looking for housing when coming back to Marist grounds, this embedded line in the Marist Tour Guide Script leaves major questions when coming back to Marist after being abroad.  

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Caruso stressed that there shouldn’t be much to fuss about due to the fact that the different housing options are so similar. “However, I do feel that being with your friends is important. I would be very upset if I was a junior and couldn’t live with my friends. Thankfully, I am not going abroad and won’t have to deal with this issue next semester,” said Caruso.

With a much larger percent of the Marist population going abroad in the fall, it has resulted in fewer spots in the upperclassman housing for the spring. Junior, Emily Sommer’s, continues to share her story after being rejected to live in two vacant spots in New Gartland due to inaccurate priority point counting from Marist Housing. 

“My roommate and I were heart broken and distraught over our new room placement, we weren’t even put in the same room and in an area that was nowhere close to anyone we knew. We were separated and isolated from all of our friends. This was incredibly difficult for us to swallow and still is difficult for us to deal with. It has caused us both to have major anxiety and depression behavioral attitudes already on top of what we had to deal with and feel when coming back and adjusting from living in another country for four months,” said Sommers.

Although many recent abroad individuals are outraged, Marist is doing their best to prevent this issue from recurring. Although individuals will always find a negative with housing, reassuring spots for incoming abroad students will decrease the stress for housing and the students coming back to Marist the following semester.